Saturday, August 17, 2019

You are special

Every human being has their own unique fingerprints which shows that no two people are the same. You are special! There's nobody else in this world who is exactly like you. You're one of a kind. If someone else doesn't see your value, it's their loss. It's more important for you to know how valuable you are.

You can't control what anyone else thinks about you, so don't waste your time trying to make other people like you. If there's something about yourself that you do not like and you're able to change it, go ahead and change it. If there's something that don't like but you're not able to change, therapy might help you to learn to live with it.

We are all special, so let's value ourselves and each other.

Thursday, August 15, 2019


According to the NHS website, "Stress is caused by our body's reaction to feeling threatened or under pressure". When we become stressed, our body releases cortisol and adrenaline to prepare itself for fight or flight. Once the threat has gone, these stress hormones leave our system helping us to feel calmer. 

It's clear that the stress response can be useful when it comes to protecting ourselves and other people from danger. However, increased levels of cortisol can cause a number of health problems including depression, anxiety, headaches, weakened immune system, weight issues, heart problems, tooth decay and more. 

A number of factors will determine what we view as a threat, including personality, background and life experiences. What stresses one person out, may not cause another person stress. In my opinion, we need to train ourselves not to become stressed over situations that aren't life threatening. If nobody is in danger, there is no need for the fight or flight response. 

When human beings become stressed, the brain sends chemical messages which influence how a person feels. The way a person feels can impact what a person thinks. The things that a person thinks can impact the way that they behave. People can try to minimise stress by avoiding triggers. Unfortunately, it's not always possible to avoid people or things that stress us out so we may need therapy to help us to deal with stress in a productive way.

If you struggle with stress, therapy may be able to help you to retrain your mind. Teaching you how to relax in situations that would normally stress you out.

Saturday, August 10, 2019

Lavender to prevent anxiety

Research has shown that Lavender oil has a calming effect on the mind, so it's often used to help people to relax. In addition to helping people to sleep, Lavender oil can also help to prevent anxiety. A study reported in the Independent shows that mice exposed to the aroma of Lavender oil showed less signs of anxiety. The study was also discussed on the NHS website which concluded that the scent of Lavender was worth trying.

To help to prevent anxiety, you could incorporate some products with Lavender oil into your morning and night-time routines. In the morning, you could use Lavender shower gels and body butters to help you to feel less anxious about the day ahead. In the evening, you could use Lavender bath oils and body butters to help you to relax and wind down for bed.

Controlling your thoughts is the best way to overcome anxiety, so you may need thought control therapy if you are feeling very anxious. Modifying your diet and exercise routine could also help to make you feel less anxious. Aromatherapy is a complementary therapy so Lavender oil based products can be used alongside other forms of treatment.

Friday, August 9, 2019

Morning Routine

In order to mentally prepare yourself for the day ahead, it's a good idea to have an effective morning routine. You could say some self-affirming words to yourself, you could read an inspirational passage in a book or you could listen to a motivational speaker. You may need to do some experimenting to find what works for you. The important thing is to find something that lifts your spirits helping you to feel optimistic and full of hope in your own abilities.

Thursday, August 8, 2019

Exercise Therapy

When we exercise our bodies release hormones that help to put us in a good mood. According to the NHS Website, exercise can be used to treat mild to moderate depression. I've been diagnosed with Bipolar but I rarely suffer from low moods or depression and I think that my regular exercise routine has something to do with it. In addition to preventing depression, exercise can also be used to treat symptoms of stress and anxiety. After an intense workout most people are too exhausted to be stressed out by trivial things. 

I woke up this morning feeling a bit anxious because I had a dentist appointment scheduled for the afternoon. I've had many bad experiences at the dentist, so I was a bit nervous about the procedure. I had some time to spare before the appointment, so I decided to go for long walk. Thankfully, I felt less anxious about the dentist appointment after my walk. As the dentist drilled away at my tooth I relaxed in the chair and thought about more pleasant things. 

If you have been diagnosed with Bipolar and you suffer from severe depression, I do not recommend that you stop taking your prescribed medication. In cases of severe depression, exercise can be used alongside medication rather than as a replacement.

Thought control

I've only ever been severely depressed once in my adult life and that was during and after my 2008 manic episode. I'm normally a positive person, but when I'm hypomanic I sometimes allow negative thoughts to enter my mind. In January 2008, my friend's mother used Biblical passages to lead me to believe that my life would be cursed because of my parents' mistakes. As I was already hypomanic, I took what she said to heart and I began to think about all of the negative things that had happened in my life. I became worried that the rest of my life would be filled with heartache and I didn't see the point in living.

My hypomania developed into mania and I ended up in the mental hospital. After taking Lorazepam to take the mania away I had the ability to fight the depression. I soon realised that my negative thoughts and memories were impacting my emotions making me feel stressed, depressed and anxious. I was eager to get better, so I made the decision to actively stop myself from thinking about negative things. I found that speaking out loud helped to stop my negative thoughts in their tracks, so when a negative thought came into my mind I would quickly say some words out loud to interrupt the thought.

In addition to clearing my mind of negativity, I made a conscious effort to fill it up with positive thoughts. I would listen to uplifting songs and read books with positive messages. I watched light hearted comedies and listened to motivational speakers. It wasn't long before I was back to my normal self. Since the 2008 episode I haven't had any significant periods of depression because I use mind control techniques to stay positive. 

If you've been diagnosed with bipolar and you suffer from depression, please do not stop taking your prescribed medication. Mania and depression are a lethal combination as they can lead to suicide. It's very difficult to use mind control techniques to fight suicidal urges during a manic episode. On those occassions you may need some medication to help you to calm down so can think clearly. 

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Natural Sedatives

After my terrible tooth experience I went to a natural health food store and asked for something to help me to sleep naturally. The store assistant recommended the above pictured 'Passiflora & Valerian Plus' drops but I didn't end up using it until recently. When it comes to calming me down in times of extreme stress, this Passiflora and Valerian supplement works better than Lorazepam. I don't plan to use it regularly because I don't want to build up a tolerance to it. Nonetheless, it's great to have it on hand in case I become hypomanic.

I'm not a big tea drinker but I recently tried some Chamomile tea and it had a nice calming effect on me. I plan to drink Chamomile tea in times of mild to moderate stress.

When I asked my doctor for some sleeping tablets she advised me to try Valerian root. I purchased some Kalms tablets because Valerian root is the main ingredient. I found that Kalms works great for mild to moderate stress.

I recently moved home and I thought it was the perfect time to try out a new natural stress reliever. I bought some Passion Flower (Passiflora) extract on the day that I was moving into my new home and I found that the tablets didn't make much of a difference to my stress levels. In my opinion Kalms works a lot better. I plan to use Passion Flower in cases of mild stress. 

Prevention is better than cure, so in the next few posts I will be discussing some techniques that I use to avoid becoming stressed in the first place.

Beware of dental cavities

When my bottom wisdom teeth started growing they often got infected because they were growing at a strange angle. My dentist informed me that they were impacted and that I may have to have them removed. I had heard horror stories about wisdom tooth removals so I didn't volunteer to have them taken out. In September 2018, I went to an emergency dentist with severe tooth pain. I was told that my bottom left wisdom tooth had a cavity so it would need to be removed. I was referred to a dental hospital for an extraction and I was told that I would have to wait more than 3 months for the removal. The tooth pain prevented me from sleeping and I started to panic because I was concerned that I would have another mental health episode. I went to my doctors several times pleading with them to give me something to help me sleep, but they refused to give me sleep medication because of the terrible side effects.

At the beginning of January 2019 I went days without sleep so my husband took me to the Accident & Emergency department of a hospital. I was quite manic so I was given some Lorazepam to help me to calm down. When I woke up at the hospital the next day I felt fine but the doctors decided to take me to a mental hospital for an assessment. I was released from the mental hospital after a week and I finally had the tooth removed on 31st January.

If I could turn back the hands of time, I would have opted to have my wisdom teeth removed at the first sign of trouble. Who knew that a tooth could cause so much problems!

The Importance of Sleep

I studied Psychology in college from the ages of 16 to 18 and I learned about what could happen if people didn't get enough sleep. Unfortunately, as I was young and foolish, I didn't think that the things I read about could happen to me. During the time that I was in college, I also had a part-time job in McDonald's. I would regularly go out partying on a Friday night and then straight to work early Saturday morning without any sleep. When I went to university at the age of 18, I kept up the same poor sleeping habits. I would be out partying in the night and then I would wake up early for my lectures in the morning. Thankfully, I was still able to graduate with A's and B's.

In November 2003, I was watching the news late at night and I became shocked to see that Michael Jackson had been arrested for sexually assaulting a young boy. I called my boyfriend to let him know what was happening. My boyfriend had been sleeping and he was annoyed that I had woken him up for something that wasn't an emergency. He began to moan and complain about the importance of sleep. Despite my boyfriend's grumbling, I didn't understand the importance of sleep until I ended up in hospital in 2008 as a result of sleep deprivation.

I qualified as a New York lawyer in January 2007 and later that year I began working in a law firm dealing with victims of torture. I became emotionally involved in my cases and I would work around the clock to prepare for litigation. My hard work paid off and I won the majority of my cases. However, the lack of sleep began to take it's toll on my mental health and I became manic. After several months of inadequate sleep I was taken to a mental hospital for three days. On my arrival at the mental hospital I was given Lorazepam which helped to calm me down helping me get back to my normal self again.

My 2008 experience taught me that lack of sleep can cause depression, stress, anxiety and even psychosis. I finally understood why my boyfriend had been upset about me waking him up in the middle of the night to discuss Michael Jackson's arrest. These days I make a conscious effort to get a good night's sleep.